The holiday season often invites a rush to achieve the ideal festive atmosphere. Many individuals find themselves ensnared in the frenzy of decorating, burdened by expectations to create a picture-perfect environment. As lights begin to illuminate windows and trees fill living rooms, anxiety can easily surface. This year presents an opportunity to adopt a different approach.
When I first settled down with my now-husband, Harry, he proposed an unconventional notion: forgoing the Christmas tree. Having grown up in Soviet-era Bulgaria, he viewed the holidays through a different lens. While he appreciated the season, he questioned the necessity of elaborate decorations. I, however, was not prepared to abandon tradition. Amid laughter and light-hearted banter, we visited a local tree lot, where I impulsively selected the largest tree that could fit in our cozy apartment.
Redefining holiday traditions
As our family expanded with the birth of our daughter, Margot, the importance of holiday spirit intensified. It was no longer solely about decorating; it became about creating memories and fostering a sense of wonder during her childhood. That first Christmas after Margot’s arrival, I splurged on a tree that cost a significant amount — $400, to be exact. Although it seemed excessive, I believed it would bring joy. Unbeknownst to me, this decision would only deepen my desire to cultivate a magical atmosphere.
The pressure to create magic
Over the years, my efforts to generate holiday cheer often led to feelings of inadequacy. The pressure grew when I realized it was no longer just about me; it was about Margot’s experiences. Last year, I attempted to make decorations, spending late nights drying orange slices, only to produce a charred mess instead of a charming garland. This left me feeling like a holiday failure, while Harry, with his effortless creativity, transformed ordinary moments into extraordinary memories, such as crafting a label from Santa for Margot’s gift.
A change in perspective
As autumn approached this year, I prepared for another wave of decoration guilt. However, a timely Instagram reel by Chelsea Fagan captured my attention and shifted my viewpoint significantly. She emphasized the distinction between festivity and mere decoration, a concept that resonated deeply with me. It felt as though my perception had been transformed, granting me a new understanding of the holiday season.
Understanding true festivity
While decorations such as wreaths and twinkling lights are beautiful, they do not define the essence of celebration. True lasting memories stem from the moments shared with loved ones. For some, the holidays center around family gatherings, while others may find significance in spiritual observances. It is crucial to acknowledge that each person celebrates in their unique manner, and that diversity is perfectly acceptable.
Reflecting on Margot’s second Christmas, I cherish the image of her, brimming with enthusiasm, climbing the step-ladder to assist with decorating. The experience was chaotic, humorous, and messy, yet those moments of laughter and togetherness were what truly mattered. The glimmer of lights and sparkle of ornaments became secondary to the joy we shared as a family.
This season, as the holidays unfold, I am choosing to embrace the festivities without the weight of expectation. It is about savoring every moment and creating memories that will endure. Instead of striving for perfect decorations, I am prioritizing the warmth of connection and love that this time of year embodies.
If you find yourself overwhelmed by the pressure to decorate, remember that the magic of the holidays lies not within the ornaments or lights, but in the heartfelt moments shared with those you cherish.