As Thanksgiving approaches, the concept of gratitude often comes to the forefront. This year, expressing thankfulness has presented unique challenges amid a whirlwind of emotions. The complexities of life can obscure the very things we should cherish, often leaving them hidden behind a veil of discontent.
At a recent reunion with former colleagues from my first-grade teaching days in the 1980s, we reminisced about a memorable lesson on distinguishing between wants and needs. While teaching my young students about essentials for a fulfilling life—such as clean air, nourishing food, and a safe home—I realized some children might not have had all these fundamental necessities. Yet, in their innocent wisdom, they emphasized the most critical element of existence: love.
Rethinking what we value
Years later, during our discussion about that lesson, it struck me how young children possess a unique perspective on life. They highlighted that everyone needs love, and without it, what is the purpose of living? This conversation resonated throughout our reunion, reminding me of the lasting impact of those simple truths from long ago. As we navigated our own lives and challenges, I began to contemplate what I would value most in a crisis, particularly in the event of a fire.
What would you rescue?
Traditionally, people think of necessities in a crisis, but what if we flipped the question? Instead of pondering what we would take to a deserted island, I asked myself, “What would I grab if flames were closing in?” Looking around my home, I quickly recognized that many items I once considered vital held little true importance. Most of my cherished photos are digitally stored, accessible from my phone or safely backed up online. Important documents like passports and social security cards are inconvenient to lose but can ultimately be replaced.
The artwork created by my husband adorns our walls, showcasing beautiful depictions of local wildlife. My grandparents’ antiques hold sentimental value; yet, if I faced the urgency of a fire, could I genuinely choose between a vintage kitchen item and a beloved family heirloom? The reality is, when confronted with such a dire situation, the decision becomes overwhelmingly emotional.
The value of memories
As we progress through life, our priorities shift. In younger years, our focus may have been on comfort and convenience, but as we age, we realize that the most significant treasures are often intangible. Having experienced loss, many understand that the most irreplaceable possessions are the memories we hold dear—the small tokens that link us to those we have lost.
What truly matters?
Ultimately, if faced with a fire, I would prioritize my loved ones and the memories connecting me to those who have passed away. Material possessions, whether gadgets or furniture, can all be replaced. However, the moments and experiences that define our relationships are invaluable.
Imagining the chaos of escaping a fire, I picture myself racing out of the house, perhaps barefoot and disheveled, clutching the essence of my relationships. If time permitted, I might snag a cherished item—a comfortable bra that took ages to find! But in that moment, the focus would undoubtedly be on the love and memories that have shaped my life.
This year, my gratitude has shifted. Instead of a lengthy inventory of possessions, it has distilled into a concise appreciation for the people and memories that have made my life rich. In that realization, I find peace.