During Thanksgiving in the United States, many experience a wave of nostalgia. This year, the concept of gratitude has been particularly significant. Life often obscures our appreciation for what truly matters, especially amidst unresolved issues and heightened emotions.
A recent reunion with former colleagues, who taught first grade alongside me in the 1980s, evoked fond memories of our teaching experiences. We reminisced about a lesson designed to help young children distinguish between wants and needs. It became apparent that while I aimed to teach the importance of basic necessities—such as clean air, food, shelter, and water—some children may not have had access to these essentials.
Shifting perspectives on value
Interestingly, these children, free from adult concerns, identified love as a fundamental need. Their insights underscored ongoing discussions about what enriches our lives, even decades later.
During our conversation, I posed a hypothetical question: “If you were stranded on a deserted island but all your needs were met, what five items would you take?” My colleagues and I laughed at indulgent suggestions like a personal chef or a luxurious bathroom, while the children proposed fun items like games, junk food, and even a roller coaster. One child’s request for unlimited ice cream demonstrated a wise simplicity.
Revisiting what matters most
Reflecting on my current life stage, I realize this question warrants a more serious interpretation. Instead of pondering what to bring to a hypothetical island, I contemplate what I would prioritize in the event of a house fire. If time stood still, what items would I select?
As I assess my home, I find many items once deemed essential are indeed replaceable. Most photographs are now stored on my phone and backed up online, which I liken to a digital attic managed by an unseen force. While important documents are frustrating to lose, they can be reissued. Passports, social security cards, and banking information, though significant, are not irreplaceable.
The true essence of value
The artwork created by my husband adorns our walls, showcasing the beauty of nature. Family heirlooms hold special significance, yet in a crisis, the choice between a quirky antique and a modern necessity becomes trivial.
In moments of urgency, the realization emerges: material possessions, such as electronics and gadgets, can be replaced. As I mentally navigate each room, my list of irreplaceable items continues to shorten.
Lessons learned through love
With age comes a deeper understanding of what truly matters. In our youth, comfort often took precedence; in midlife, convenience became the focus. Now, after experiencing the loss of loved ones, we learn that the most treasured items are not material possessions, but the memories we cherish—the intangible remnants of love that endure.
If faced with danger, I would prioritize the people I care about and the memories connecting me to those who have passed. Material belongings can be replaced or lived without.
A recent reunion with former colleagues, who taught first grade alongside me in the 1980s, evoked fond memories of our teaching experiences. We reminisced about a lesson designed to help young children distinguish between wants and needs. It became apparent that while I aimed to teach the importance of basic necessities—such as clean air, food, shelter, and water—some children may not have had access to these essentials.0
A recent reunion with former colleagues, who taught first grade alongside me in the 1980s, evoked fond memories of our teaching experiences. We reminisced about a lesson designed to help young children distinguish between wants and needs. It became apparent that while I aimed to teach the importance of basic necessities—such as clean air, food, shelter, and water—some children may not have had access to these essentials.1