Entering elderhood at the age of 65 often surprises many. The label of ‘elderly’ seems at odds with my vibrancy and enthusiasm for life. Despite societal perceptions that portray aging as a decline, I find myself thriving with an intensity that surpasses even my younger days.
In my 20s, I took my energy for granted, believing I could chase my dreams indefinitely. Now, at 65, I am amazed at the vitality flowing through me and the gratitude I feel for each day. My mother often spoke of living ‘three score years and ten,’ a notion that felt concrete until her untimely passing at age 70. This experience led me to reflect on the narratives surrounding aging, especially as more women awaken their creative spirits well into their 60s and beyond.
The evolving nature of energy
While my energy has shifted from the vibrant exuberance of youth, it has transformed rather than diminished. I no longer crave the late-night escapades that once defined my youth; instead, I recognize the importance of rest and self-care. This energy is evolutionary, rooted in our past selves while carving a path toward who we are becoming.
The sacred flame of elderhood
This unique energy in elderhood resembles a sacred flame, ancient, resilient, and ever-present within women over 60. Throughout various life seasons, this flame may flicker amidst duty and silence, but it remains unextinguished. Many experience a profound awakening around the sixth or seventh decade—a return to their authentic selves. This is a time when the flame that may have dimmed now burns with renewed vigor, slow yet unstoppable.
Redefining our narratives
Recently, I encountered a powerful quote suggesting that aging should not signify retirement but rather a phase of re-enchantment. What if we embraced each passing year with love, allowing ourselves to become even more radiant and confident? Our culture often overlooks the strength and vitality of older women, yet they are present everywhere: in gardens, advocating for justice, and continuing to educate the young. Their influence is palpable, and their presence is a testament to resilience.
The stories we carry
As we transition into our 60s, we possess a treasure trove of life experiences—stories woven with heartbreak, resilience, and love. We are not fading; rather, we are blossoming into our fullest selves. The wisdom gained from navigating careers, relationships, and societal expectations enriches our elderhood, transforming it into a tapestry of vibrant life.
To be full of life beyond 60 is not merely an ideal; it is a reality shaped by our past experiences. The lessons learned through joy and pain, the love shared, and the strength built through adversity fortify us. These experiences do not weigh us down; rather, they serve as our roots, grounding us and empowering us to flourish in ways we may not have dared before.
Building community and connection
One of the most significant yet underrated sources of energy during elderhood is the power of community. Women in their 60s and beyond often rediscover or forge deep connections—sisterhoods grounded in meaningful interaction rather than superficial exchanges. These relationships become a fountain of energy, where laughter heals, stories become legacies, and shared experiences create profound rituals.
Consider starting a women’s circle, whether in person or online. It can be as simple as enjoying tea together and sharing truths or as elaborate as conducting moon rituals and poetry nights. The key is to cultivate an environment that thrives on authenticity, depth, and joy.
Reconnecting with the wild woman within
Within each of us lies a wild woman—a spirit eager to move, laugh, and reclaim space in the world. Engaging in rituals that celebrate this untamed essence can rejuvenate our energy and remind us of our innate freedom. Writing letters to our past selves or allowing moments of stillness can help us tap into the wisdom that comes with age.
In my 20s, I took my energy for granted, believing I could chase my dreams indefinitely. Now, at 65, I am amazed at the vitality flowing through me and the gratitude I feel for each day. My mother often spoke of living ‘three score years and ten,’ a notion that felt concrete until her untimely passing at age 70. This experience led me to reflect on the narratives surrounding aging, especially as more women awaken their creative spirits well into their 60s and beyond.0
