Can infidelity be forgiven?
On the infidelity in the couple’s relationship, rivers of ink have flowed. That if it is inevitable, that if it is genetic, that if monogamy is a utopia, that if men are more unfaithful or women are, that infidelity can be forgiven, that it is better to look the other way … AND We still do not have clear solutions, so this time we ask ourselves what to do if your partner confesses an infidelity.
When your partner confesses to you an infidelity
Usually one of the main problems of infidelity is doubt, suspicion . For a while you have been looking for those signs of infidelity because you suspect that your boyfriend is cheating on you, but you do not reach the definitive test. Many infidelities go unnoticed like this, because there is no time, no desire, or need to become a private detective to find out if your partner is cheating on you.
But there are times (the least) in which the unfaithful confesses, either because you ask him directly if he is sleeping with another person, or because he himself decides to tell you that he has had ‘a slip’. With the confession the problem becomes evident and from the problem we come to the relationship crisis because now you cannot look the other way. What to do when they confess an infidelity?
How to act when your partner cheats on you
We are very clear that an infidelity is a deception and a severe blow to that trust through which the future of the relationship is being built between a couple that governs sexual exclusivity . But before making the decision to break up with your partner or to use the joker of forgiveness, you better consider some aspects of the situation.
+ The type of infidelity. Okay, your partner has cheated on you and you are angry. But what kind of infidelity are we talking about? Because it is not the same that your partner has a lover for a year and sees her regularly than having a romp at the birthday party of his best friend who lives 200 kilometers away.
+ Is not the same. There are many and varied situations for cheating and they do not hurt the same, but it is you who decides if this infidelity has fractured your relationship or it can pass to your common history as an unpleasant anecdote .
+ Is it convenient for you to forgive? You can only answer this question yourself. If you decide to forgive the infidelity , make sure you truly forgive. You cannot live with a partner who you are blaming for their mistake for the rest of your life. It would not be healthy for you or your partner.
+ The confession. Listen to the infidel. Have you confessed on your own initiative or been forced to do so? If he confesses on his own initiative, he values whether he does it because he himself does not understand how he could do something like this or because he wants to get rid of the weight of his conscience, like those children who are caught in fault and swear and perjure that they will never do it again, although you know that they will do it again as soon as they have a chance.
+ Let some time pass. If you are very confused, if you do not know what to do in this situation, you can always go to that time that many couples ask for. An infidelity is a reason to take time as a couple and discover if you really love that person or are with them for fear of loneliness. Take some time and a distance and find out if you want to come back.