What exactly is emotional infidelity ? How can it be differentiated from physics? There are still many questions about emotional disloyalty, as it is a type of disloyalty that is currently on the rise due to the use of media such as WhatsApp or social networks.
If you find out that your partner has been unfaithful just by talking to a person, sharing feelings or feeling something for them, surely you don’t really know what you should do. Do not worry! In Diario Femenino we have spoken with the psychologist Yolanda Zorita and she is going to give us some specialist advice to face an emotional infidelity . Let’s see them!
Emotional infidelity: what is it exactly?
Emotional infidelity usually occurs, as we said at the beginning, through social networks or WhatsApp messages . “It occurs when our partner has a close and intimate level of communication with a third person , with whom he has come to share things that are too intimate,” the psychologist tells us.
Once we are clear about what exactly an emotional infidelity is, we should investigate a little more about what hurts more: the emotional or the physical . “Emotional infidelity over time undermines our self-esteem and confidence in ourselves. It is more harmful because it is a devaluation of the personality that can lead us to be more complacent or to have more anger or more anger,” says Yolanda, “generates a change in the person’s personality and, therefore, it can even have consequences in other areas of life because you become a very insecure person “.
Therefore, emotional infidelity is usually much more harmful if it is maintained in the long term. Why? Easy. It seems that nothing happens, that it is not an infidelity, you manage it as best you can, but the result is much more negative than with a physical infidelity.
What can you do if you discover that your partner is unfaithful
You will realize that your partner is being emotionally unfaithful because, as we said, he begins to share intimacies with another person, and may even compare you with him. “This person is taking your place, he spends a lot of time talking to her rather than being aware of you,” Yolanda tells us.
What we should do, once you know that your partner is being unfaithful (physically or emotionally) is to talk to your partner. “You have to avoid confrontation, reproaches or insults and you have to remain calm. For that, you must first think about what you want to convey and, from the calm, expose it to your partner “, as the specialist psychologist indicates. .
How can you overcome emotional infidelity?
Once you know what emotional infidelity is and if your partner has been cheating on you, you need to ask yourself whether or not to forgive. Before doing so, you should reflect on whether previously the relationship was not going as well as you thought: for example, he did not dedicate time to you, you did not trust at all … “There are previous indications that you do not feel well, you do not feel important to him”. Yolanda tells. In these cases, it is better not to forgive and turn the page.
In addition, the person who has suffered an infidelity is of any type, when it comes to overcoming it, they should reflect on who they are, what type of relationship they want and what mistakes they have made. The psychologist recommends making a reflection like this to know what you have done to end the relationship, in this way you will know how you position yourself in relationship with your partner and how you are going to face future relationships.